YOU’RE WORTH IT !



I thought WHY should women empowerment be the subject of conversation only in the Month of February-March. Women deserve the privileges they are offered more than just on a single day because they are worth it, every day of their life. Even today as I coach women through various segments of the society, at different phases and ages, I see somewhere there is an underlying fear of asserting themselves fully and stand for what they are and how they wish to project themselves in the world they live in; knowing well that they are worth it.

The lion's share of knowing that "you are worth it " my dear ladies &girls is being willing to able to take a stand on your behalf. Powerlessness and diminished self confidence are products of passive inferiority women have accepted without complaint. Although, women are achieving more, outdistancing previous generations of men and women, they sometimes tenaciously continue to devalue themselves and their contributions. Deep down they still buy into a persistent cultural view of women as the fairer sex, defective physically and lacking intellectually. It is hard work to drop such psychological cargo. Some women seek recognition and reassurance in the way they look, the number of awards they've won, the car they drive - everywhere but inside themselves. BUT self respect never depends on winning approval. Every woman knows in her heart that friends and foes alike can be fooled by bravada, if her performance is carefully rehearsed. Genuine confidence of course is born and proven from within.
 
Knowing that you’re worth it is rooted in what we call a satisfaction mentality. That’s when you believe there is more to life than merely coping with problems in order to survive. Expect abundance, comfort, success, enjoyment and love. At the end of the day, let go of finished and unfinished business, relax, and look forward to another day.

One of the most challenging obstacles to self-respect is the feeling that you’re downright selfish to give yourself a pat on the back (instead of waiting for a good word from somebody else). Yet nurturing yourself is just the opposite of selfishness. Selfish, self indulgent types go for immediate, short term highs, nurturance is a life along process of fostering respect for yourself and others. It is very high form of assertiveness. Like anything that really matters becoming a confident, assertive woman takes time. Along the way, of course, there will be failures and disappointments. But here’s a secret, the difference between the glowing success story and the crushing failure isn’t luck, or fate, or intelligence; it’s the ability to bounce back. For starters, it helps to remember that sometimes things look life a failure in the middle; anticipate occasional setbacks, welcome them, even, because they’re ways to learn. What’s important is that you get up, brush yourself off and move forward – with or without a smile, but forward nonetheless.

Here’s a poem “After a While” by Veronica A. Shoffstall which explains us understand this perfectly.

After a while you learn, the subtle difference between
holding a hand and Changing a Soul
and you learn
that love doesn’t mean leaning
and company doesn’t mean security
And you begin to learn
that kisses aren’t contracts and presents aren’t promises
and you begin to accept your defeats
with your head up and your eyes ahead
with the grace of a woman, not the grief of a child
and you learn
to build your roads on today
because tomorrow’s ground is too uncertain for plans
and futures have a way to falling down
in mid-flight.
After a while you learn, that even sunshine burns
if you get too much
so you plant your own garden
and decorate your own soul
instead of waiting for someone
to bring you flowers.
And you learn that you really can endure
you really are strong
you really do have worth
and you learn
and you learn
with every goodbye, you learn… 

Excerpts : The Assertive Woman- Stanley Phelps & Nancy Austin
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Comments

  1. Swati Sule28 September 2018 at 23:05

    Kalpana, well thought and pen down article. As women will empower herself, she will never afraid of to her True, authentic self. Keep sharing your thoughts!!

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